Ketidakadilan?

Assalamualaikum :)

Terdetik pula untuk meluahkan perasaan di sini walaupun tahu tak de sape nak bace pun =D tapi tak kirelah, some thoughts are better written down and expressed rather than to be left just as thoughts which most probably will be forgotten in time.

So, the other day i was listening to this bit from the radio about unfairness in life. How we have contributed a lot in the Company. OT siang malam, hjung minggu pun terpaksa buat kerja kat office. Sampai kengkawan lain semua kritik kate xde life, a WORKAHOLIC. Dah la kena tebalkan muka dgn kritikan2... bonus tak dapat, OT tak dibayar.. Gaji tak naik.. Mesti rasa tak fair kan. Dan kebiasaanye kite akan mencari sesuatu / orang lain utk kite salahkan. Salah satu PESALAH utama adalah BOSS :p Memang bley dikatekan slalunye boss akan dipersalahkan... kite akan complaint job bnyk masuk, keje melambak tapi gaji tak naik2... padahal bos bley plak nak beli kete baru sebijik..

Well this is only one example which i can personally relate to. Ada bnyk lagi example2, as a student, in relationships, in a community etc. Basically, its about human nature that we want something in return for the goodness or the extra something that we have done. Macam kate pepatah, buat baik dibalas dgn kebaikan, buat jahat dibalas dgn kejahatan.

But if we think about it, kalau kita ikhlas bekerja dgn niat utk mencari keredhaanNya, maka mengapa perlu dipersoalkan balasannya? Apakah keikhlasan itu tidak ada? Atau mungkin kita terlau mengejar hal2 duniawi dan terlupa akan ganjaran / balasan yang mungkin kita terima di akhirat nanti. Sama2lah kita fikirkan2 dan peringat2kanlah seandainya terlupa =)

Understanding People

Understanding people is definitely not an easy subject. People are always changing due to a lot of factors be it within a short term or over a long period. However i've learned that to UNDERSTAND people is very pertinent, simply because we deal with people basically EVERYDAY and EVERYTIME.

There's this one highly recommended book --> '7 Habits of Highly Effective People' written by Stephen Covey. Its very famous. Buku ni dah lama dah publish, around 1989. But, to me, i prefer to recommend orang untuk bace another version of the above, which is --> '7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens' by Sean Covey (anak Stephen Covey). This version is way lighter and i can relate more to the examples given. Tapi still tak khatam lagi eventhough buku tu i bought in the year 2000 :p

In their books, they have also highlighted HABIT #5 - SEEK FIRST TO BE UNDERSTAND, THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD. But the problem is, we always tend to be understood first. We always want to voice out what we feel and make people understand us. Understand our ways. Well, tak salahkan nak suruh orang faham. I mean thats like the whole point of getting to know each other. Tak ke? HOWEVER, i've noticed that this doesnt really work.

It is indeed very true that in order for me to handle things more efficiently, I have to firstly seek to understand prior to being understood. Rasa cam susah giler je nak buat sbb i've always believed that someone should always follow what they think is right. Gerak hati tu penting. Tapi cam selalu salah je.. Haha.. Hermph ... tak pe... ape2 pun kite memang kene trus cekalkan hati dan meneruskan usaha! GambatTe!